First blog post
Father Part 1
My first blog post will of course be dedicated to fatherhood. Being a father at first doesn’t seem too scary. However, the truth is much longer.
To be a father. Each of us conjures different images when we hear this word. Some associate it with childhood anecdotes, funny experiences, stories of bravery, daring deeds—I’m sure each of us can give an example for each occasion. This is from our perspective as children, not thinking about anything serious. Our main excitement was for fun and spending good times with close friends and loved ones. This was because we were assured that there were those who would sort things out, fix what was broken, and protect the home. Many people may not have had the same luck of having a complete family. With the modern times, divorces are rampant, and premature mortality among young adults is also worrisome. But regardless of their childhood experiences, what’s important is for them to know that having a healthy and balanced family now depends entirely on them.
So, after describing my understanding of childhood and carefree days, it’s time to grow up and transition to the times where we are the responsible ones to ensure a carefree childhood for our children. In many situations, it might seem like everything and everyone is against us, and that nothing is fair. But I have a saying for such times, or rather, as Timon and Pumbaa put it, ‘hakuna matata’ (translated as ‘no worries’). I’ll try to bring a dose of positivity for those reading, sharing how things happened for me.
Overall, during pregnancy, besides the tender side of the relationship being slightly capricious, nothing abnormal. However, true realization comes when the baby is born and handed to you for the first time from the hospital. It’s then, or maybe a few days later, that the full realization hits—that you are now a Father. And it doesn’t matter if France and Austria are playing; you have other concerns now. The baby period, aside from sleep deprivation, is quite enjoyable.
Often, fathers have to work 8-10-12 hours to provide for the young family. As a result, they spend less time with the child. But perhaps, this is how we are designed since prehistoric times. Because we all agree that we men are more prone to get angry if a fragile creature expresses its emotions through crying and squealing 24 hours a day.
Now, having passed the first two years, everything is fine. Now it’s time for realization. Maybe after my son was born, it took some time before I came across the book by Yvon Chouinard: ‘Let My People Go Surfing.’ Or in other words, the start of the Patagonia brand. It was a pleasant book, and I wish it didn’t end. However, as I’ll find out later, this will be the book I wish I had never read. An interesting question arises: ‘Why?’ Because it shows an ordinary person doing everything with a purpose for their customers, nature, and the planet. And after years of hard work, things work out.
As an enterprising person, I’ve always dreamed of having a successful company or working with a company that changes the world/country/society for the better. The ‘meaning’ comes to make something good that remains after you and sets an example for the younger generation. It should be meaningful enough to invest all your love and work in it, without negative consequences, and perhaps one day your children will not be ashamed of your efforts.
And here’s where it gets interesting—what can we do given that it’s 2024 in developed economies, with artificial intelligence writing, understanding, and even drawing well? The truth I discovered about myself is that I don’t know, but I’ll continue to search until I find it. To start, I’m launching my website and blog to share my views because whenever I talk to friends, I see that they are concerned about the same things. Granted, there are people with established businesses who may think less about what they would do simply because they physically don’t have time, but I can certainly say their trials are far from over.
I want to conclude Chapter One with a wish for everyone. I didn’t come up with it, but I like it as a motto: ‘Today, be better than yesterday.’ It can be applied to everything—work, doing it more efficiently than yesterday, patience with children, spending more time with them. In every direction of life. Stay tuned for Chapter Two coming soon…
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